tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post3567851432780478638..comments2023-06-25T04:25:55.442-04:00Comments on Lost in the WILLDERNESS: How Do You Ask Someone to be Your Gf/Bf?Chilly Willyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02909546053565605280noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-49538277837044437712008-12-17T22:31:00.000-05:002008-12-17T22:31:00.000-05:00soooo... i finally saw this post today when i was ...soooo... i finally saw this post today when i was scrolling through it showing my cousin in LA about ur blog. <BR/><BR/>and soo funny, i wonder about that too, nowadays is different than in elementary or high school. <BR/><BR/>i just go with the flow cuz i think it depends on different girls, and sometimes i still don't know what to do but just keep going along with it.<BR/><BR/>but its all communication, so as long as the both of you are on the same page its all good... like if ur dating/seeing more than one person, than u gotta notify the other person, especially if you are sleeping with them. <BR/><BR/>but once u get introduced to family, ie mom/dad, i think that pretty much means official. <BR/><BR/>or when someone asks you, do u have a gf/bf, and u have to think of what to say, then I think you need to talk to the other person so you can clarify things, but don't wanna scare them away into rushing things as well.tilthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06736190105750010289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-70061819714697799942008-11-18T01:20:00.000-05:002008-11-18T01:20:00.000-05:00Word too the post above, lol. That dreaded "Frien...Word too the post above, lol. That dreaded "Friend Zone."<BR/><BR/>I always try and DIP from that area. If I'm chilling with a girl a lot and I can sense they're getting too comfortable, I disappear for a good week or so. I'll say shit like, Im kinda busy still, or nah not tonight. Whenever they ask me to go do something with them, aka movie n shit like that.<BR/><BR/>Then outta the blue I'll send a text like.<BR/><BR/>Me: "Hey, what's up?"<BR/>Them: "Nothing much really."<BR/>Me: "Forreal, whatchu doing tonight?"<BR/>Them: "Well, Im supposed to go out with some friends, but I dunno, not really into it."<BR/><BR/>**Of course that reply isn't always the same, it either "Not doing anything." But do girls really like to admit they aren't doing anything...I dunno, they don't want to seem boring or something? I dunno.<BR/><BR/>ANYWHO!!!****<BR/><BR/>Me: "Oh, so I guess you have plans then, iiight, cool."<BR/>Them: "Well maybe, why?"<BR/>Me: Nah, it's cool........next time<BR/>Them: No, what?<BR/>Me: You have plans, next time when you don't have plans.<BR/>Them: OMG, just tell me, nothing is for certain<BR/>Me: Okay fine, you wanna come with me too.......*insert whatever event here* Usually somewhere where it would be me and her though together.<BR/><BR/>That's my instant get the fuck outta the friend zone playbook play. You gotta DIP, not make yourself too available for shit. Or else, you'll be etting phone calls and text msgs for stupid shit.<BR/><BR/>Them: Hey, wanna come with me too pick out curtains? and a night stand @ Ikea?<BR/>Me in my mind: WTF? Curtains? Nightstand? this girl must be trippin'<BR/><BR/>my response,<BR/><BR/>"Nah, can't today.....Im in." ...I think I said some shit like Ajax or Milton for a couple of days.<BR/><BR/>Basically, I had to DIP from her for a good month after that shit.<BR/><BR/>Past relationships now......No idea how we made it official.<BR/><BR/>I remember one of them, I told someone on my msn about her, while I was in class @ school *** I think I was on break or some shit.***About how I liked this girl in my program.<BR/><BR/>I don't know how it happened, but she either ended up reading my conversation by "accident." Damn liar, girls are nosey, LoL<BR/><BR/>or<BR/><BR/>Actually, I'm pretty sure thats what happened. So next day now, she was just like, soooo....are you gonna ask me?<BR/><BR/>Me: I dunno, what do you want me too ask?<BR/>Her: I dunno, what do you feel like asking<BR/><BR/>It went on like that for like 1min, until I was like too myself, wow, your so gay right now. You know she likes you so just friggin ask her already. What are you, 6??<BR/><BR/>So I ask, she looks @ the date, and was like, "Mark this day down, its official. Oh yeah, you can tell so and so on your list we are official as of this day."<BR/><BR/>Can you believe that, her way of saying yes is that its official, after I been through all that unnecessary sweating (It was winter, had on my winter jacket...what? it was hot inside).<BR/><BR/>What did my friend say about it when I told her you ask? Well you didn't but imma tell you anyway...<BR/><BR/>She goes, FINALLY!! OMG, your so gay.<BR/><BR/>Damn you Sharadene.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>TrimaineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-35262153428652575912008-11-18T00:49:00.000-05:002008-11-18T00:49:00.000-05:002 things:1) how do you know you love someone2) whe...2 things:<BR/>1) how do you know you love someone<BR/>2) when you figure out you do how do you tell themAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-59252885012048888292008-11-18T00:47:00.000-05:002008-11-18T00:47:00.000-05:00i always gave my current bf opportunities to make ...i always gave my current bf opportunities to make it official but he never took them until one night i went to confront him about something...i started out by asking, "what do you see me as" (just so i can know from which angle to tackle the issue)then he responded by saying my girl...so i guess thats a way to make it official =SAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-47420400886411376122008-11-17T21:33:00.000-05:002008-11-17T21:33:00.000-05:00once u enter the friend zone u cannot get out!LOL....once u enter the friend zone u cannot get out!<BR/>LOL.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-25039066459646064352008-11-17T16:49:00.000-05:002008-11-17T16:49:00.000-05:00"In my opinion, on the whole friends thing, some o..."In my opinion, on the whole friends thing, some of the best relationships start out as friendships."<BR/><BR/>I totally agree with this statement. It's nice to not have that 'new person' awkwardness because you already know and love each other in a very significant way. And if the bf/gf relationship doesn't work out, that doesn't necessarily mean that the friendship has to be. You just have to decide how much it's worth to you to keep it.Janinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12491186516982054413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-9418000705495125452008-11-17T15:16:00.000-05:002008-11-17T15:16:00.000-05:00In my opinion, on the whole friends thing, some of...In my opinion, on the whole friends thing, some of the best relationships start out as friendships. The only way you're going to know if there can be more is if you put it out there. If you say something and they don't feel the same, yeah its gonna be weird. On the other hand if you don't say anything the wondering what could have been is going to eat you alive. Plus you never know, even if they reject you at first, knowing how you feel about them could change their perspective of you in a good way. Get them thinking, "Hmm, maybe I could see myself dating *insert name*."TheDeFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14973843849861622144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-24288542013177932822008-11-17T14:39:00.000-05:002008-11-17T14:39:00.000-05:00these stories as madd cute and give me that fuzzy ...these stories as madd cute and give me that fuzzy feelin of young love haha...<BR/>but for some reason i think its gotten a hella not more complicated these days...i mean how do you know if bein exclusive is even on the table?..what if you have a lot of chemistry...but you've known them forever...what if you know them as a person that's not really the commitment type?...what if you think its more than they do?...like the whole i jus think of you as a friend thing haha...i dunno i guess i'm one step behind everyone else...its not the askin someone to be my boyfriend thas the issue...its knowin if thas even an option...at least in this case hahaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-35426089951036992362008-11-17T13:50:00.000-05:002008-11-17T13:50:00.000-05:00Well, for most of my life I've been the kind of sh...Well, for most of my life I've been the kind of shy girl, but you hit 18 and shit just changes lol. I wasn't too shy because I was always the person asking someone out. A girl can only wait so long and drop so many hints. I met this guy Walter, we had been talking on the phone for a little bit. One night we're getting off the phone and there's this awkward pause, we hang up anyway. So I'm sitting there in my room for 5 minutes going back and forth with myself thinking, "You really like him Kizzy, just call back. But what if I scare him off? Fuck that you know what you want. What's the worst that can happen?" I woman up and call back...<BR/>"Hello?"<BR/>"Why did I feel like I wanted to tell you I love you?" (lol mad bold)<BR/>"You felt that too."<BR/>"Yeah, that wrong?"<BR/>"Na. I kinda wanted to say it too but I didn't know if I should. You sure you're ready to go there?"<BR/>"Yeah."<BR/>".....I love you Kizzy."<BR/>"I love you too Walt."......we talked for a lil bit then got off the phone. He and I were together for 3 years; broke up with me this year. Sometimes you just have go get it. A lot of that waiting and wondering what to say is fear of rejection, but if you know what you want you have to face it. My Mom says, "If you find someone who is willing to make a fool out of themselves for you, you've found love that will last a lifetime." I've learned not to make things harder than they should be and whatever you do don't be blasè about it. Now that I'm 22 and single I'm telling guys like this, son it's not a marriage proposal its just an invitation to the most fulfilling experience of your life lmao.......oNeTheDeFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14973843849861622144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-66034385315442631742008-11-17T13:13:00.000-05:002008-11-17T13:13:00.000-05:00Me and all my past relationships, we sort of got o...Me and all my past relationships, we sort of got on the topic of couples and just tested each other's answers lol. The whole answer the theoretixal scenarios. And then it just happens. <BR/><BR/>I think that to avoid the "friend" or "brother" status you need to come one somewhere in between strong and explorative. Highlight the chemistry and make sure s/he knows you're interested and make sure s/he always knows it. Tough subject, but I love reading itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-90470367689229310432008-11-17T12:34:00.000-05:002008-11-17T12:34:00.000-05:00With my son's father, it was when he took me to hi...With my son's father, it was when he took me to his house and introduced me to his parents as "his girlfriend". I don't recommend this strategy, however, because it's an easy way to get your face cracked. <BR/><BR/>Dude: "mom, dad...this is Boomquisha, my girlfriend".<BR/><BR/>Boomquisha: "WHAT?? OH HELL TO THE NAW! Boy, you musta bumped yo head. You are NOT my man...you playin'! He playin. Sheeee-oooot"Janinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12491186516982054413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-40096876813876619552008-11-17T10:43:00.000-05:002008-11-17T10:43:00.000-05:00I remember when my fiance and I first got together...I remember when my fiance and I first got together. It was 10th grade and we were outside his friends house playin basketball. When he went inside to use the bathroom his best friend Brian came up to me and was like<BR/>"You know Josh like you right?"<BR/>"What???No he doesn't"<BR/>"Yeah, he does. You'll see"<BR/><BR/>Brian walks away and then Josh comes out lookin all nervous and i'm cheesin hella hard from what Brian just told me. And then Josh walks up to me and asks why i'm smiling so hard<BR/><BR/>"It's nothin, B just said you like me"<BR/>".....Damn, I told him not to tell you. I wanted to do it"<BR/>"So you do like me?"<BR/>"Yeah, i've actually liked you since the 5th grade"<BR/>"Really????"(i'm cheesin super hard now)<BR/>"Yeah. you wanna be my girlfriend"<BR/>"ok"<BR/>then we kissed for what seemed like forever and then my parents pulled up and ruined the moment,lol. That was how we got together and we still are. We've been friends since the 4th grade so getting into the relationship was very easy. We damn near knew everything about each other up to that point but I could understand why people won't date one of their friends cuz if you broke up it would be weird trying to be friends again. Depending how you break up tho it could be done. But yeah, that's how we got together.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2843157886125034659.post-20001025141418127222008-11-17T07:19:00.000-05:002008-11-17T07:19:00.000-05:00ask? ask what... if i may hold your hand? i though...ask? ask what... if i may hold your hand? i thought you just "know" when something is official or not.<BR/><BR/>then again, some people are still a bit old school when it comes to these things and they have to do it the "right" way.<BR/><BR/>i remember getting a letter in school asking "do you like me?" i laughed at him, cos i thought it was weird. today i feel bad and thought maybe i should apologize, but i've no idea what happened to him. bless!narrylikeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17427501155188427589noreply@blogger.com